Three Tips On Dating A Co-Worker

Should you date your boss or your co-worker?

While dating a co-worker might seem like an adventurous thrill ride that could make an otherwise dull week that much more exciting, there are a few  factors to keep in mind before taking the plunge into an office romance.

As with most new relationships, the real excitement comes in the early stages: the flirting, the secret e-mails, the smiles and sexual glances, the playful jokes and letters. You feel vitalized when you wake up in the morning; you can’t wait to see her all decked out in her office attire, complete with that cheery smile when she sees you walk in.

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You get to have lunch together.  An otherwise ordinary office lunch can magically become an intimate lunch date complete with flirting, frolicking and maybe even a quickie.

However, the other guys in the office might be a littlejealous of you when they catch on. But you couldn’t care less about them; you’re on top of the world, right?

As with everything else in life, along with the good comes the bad. The only difference with dating a co-worker is that when it’s bad, it’s horrible,

The more private time you spend together during office hours, the more and more you’ll begin to alienate yourself from your other colleagues. The worst thing you can do is distance yourself from your immediate associates, especially those you’ve developed personal relationships with. As soon as trouble in corporate paradise rears its ugly head and you find yourself as the office outsider, you’ll have to work overtime to regain their trust and friendship.

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Office gossip can destroy your chances of promotion. Should your boss discover that you’re more preoccupied with your relationship than with your job, you may find yourself writing those cute little love notes on a pink slip.

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If you are caught in an act of intimacy during office hours, you’re busted. This alone can severely harm your professional image.

If she’s having a bad day, you’re screwed…

Should you decide that it’s time to break it off, those 40 work hours per week might feel like an eternity in the early stages of the breakup. The beauty of breaking off a normal relationship is that you no longer have to see the other person afterward. Obviously, the same rules don’t apply when it comes to an office fling.

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You are aware of these dangers, but she is sooo hot and you eventually decided to date her… Here are a few tips to make it work:

1. Make sure you are not violating company policy

Most companies frown on office romances and co-workers dating. Though it may not be written down in any rulebooks, companies recognize that office romances are Pandora’s boxes, which may negatively affect productivity, and so they discourage co-workers from dating. For example hospitals do not encourage doctor-nurse romances. So if you are considering dating a co-worker, you must first consult the company employee handbook if there is a rule against dating or marrying a co-worker. If there is, it is best to consult and inform your boss in an honest manner and discuss solutions for both to stay within the same company. Most bosses may adopt a ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ attitude, and work out a compromise like shifting one of you to a different department.

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2. Keeping it discreet

One of the most important lessons, which people have learnt, is to keep an office romance discreet. Rumour mills and grapevines thrive on the grist of possible- ongoing-failed romances. Your office may contain many people who are inimical to you and waiting to speak ill of you. It’s a dog-eat-dog situation and an office romance is the best way to feed the rumour mills. Especially if a romance sours, it may be very unpleasant and embarrassing for both of you at the workplace if you have had a very highflying public romance. Your decisions, motivations, actions, all may be weighed in terms of your romantic interest in a co-worker. Be prepared for co-workers to be talking behind your back. So the best policy is to keep your romance low key and quiet until it turns really serious. It will avoid complicating relationships with other co-workers.

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3.  Avoid public displays of affection

Even if you don’t want to be too discrete, it is better to avoid public displays of affection in the office. Save the handholding and caressing for after-hours. Cloying displays of affection spoil the office atmosphere. Also the habit of sending electronic messages or e-mails containing love declarations is best avoided. Most office employees have access to all office e-mails on the excuse of checking for suspected pornographic content and illegal material. And in the process, all your intimate letters will be the joke of the office.

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I hope these tips will help you if you believe that your co-worker is your dream partner 🙂

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